Many have looked to the Song of Solomon for biblical guidance on romance and love. Indeed parts of it might be considered even a little bit ‘steamy.’ During their song of love the Shulamite woman warns her beloved – “Take us the foxes, the little foxes, that spoil the vines: for our vines have tender grapes.” (Song of Solomon 2:15) One translation says – “Quick! Catch all the little foxes before they ruin the vineyard of our love, for the grapevines are all in blossom.” In other words, beware of the things that might come between us.
In his book on marriage, Christian counselor Gary Chapman describes four seasons of the relationship between a husband and his wife:
Springtime is a season of hope, optimism and love. During this season the flowers are blooming, the birds are singing, and romance is in the air. Most marriages begin in spring, but few marriages remain there. Over time most marriages develop and mature to the next season which is summer.
Summer is a time of friendship, happiness and productivity. The couple is maturing both physically and emotionally. During this season they begin to recognize their differences, yet they are willing to resolve their conflicts in a positive manner. During the summer season couples seek to complement each other, rather than compete.
Fall comes after summer and is a time when coolness and separation begin to creep into the marriage relationship. Rather than growing closer together, the couple begins to drift apart. There is a lack of communication and time spent together. Criticism becomes a major part in their relationship and often there is unresolved conflict.
Finally there is winter. Winter in a marriage is a time when love has grown cold. Problems seem too big to resolve and unless something is done to restore the relationship, divorce often occurs.
The Shulamite woman warned her lover about becoming careless in their relationship. “Don’t let the little foxes spoil the vines” she warned him. “Don’t let life somehow steal away our tender love.”